Find out how to take pleasure in Paris as a solo traveller



“Would you like to taste our kouglof?” A young female pastry chef leans towards me with a pan filled with slices of buttery Alsatian cake, just out of the oven.

I’m perched on an impossibly soft leather banquette for tea at Le Dali, French celebrity chef Alain Ducasse’s restaurant in Le Meurice. It’s Monday and the room is packed with mothers, businesspeople, lovers; many of them alone, all of us partaking in this Parisian ritual of unwinding.

le dali le meurice
Le Dali

In the past hour I’ve been here, I’ve already swilled jasmine tea and devoured scones with jam, along with pastries – including a sublime tarte au citron (lemon tart) shaped like a golden egg. But it’s cold outside, the wind is ferocious and life is short. “Of course,” I answer, and reach for a warm chunk of cake.

Historic sights

It is an ideal flourish on a Paris afternoon: a photo exhibition at Grand Palais, my first visit to Musée Yves Saint Laurent Paris on Avenue Marceau, shopping on the rue St Honoré.

Finally, I relax for a while in one of Tuileries Garden’s distinctive metal chairs. People glide along rows of elms, leaving an echo of voices. It is a parade – despite the different characters – that has likely not changed much since the time of Catherine de’ Medici, the Queen of France from 1547 to 1559.

Parisians relaxing at the Tuileries Garden
Tuileries Garden

‘He travels the fastest who travels alone’, wrote the great English author Rudyard Kipling. With due respect, I’m changing the sentiment to ‘one travels with abandon when unencumbered by company’. This is particularly true in Paris, whose mysterious allure seems perfectly suited for solitude.

If that seems paradoxical for the world’s most romantic city, I say, au contraire (on the contrary). True, romance is everywhere in Paris: it floats on the Seine, breezes down its avenues, glimmers in its architecture, monuments, bridges and great works of art housed in its museums. It is in the lull that floats through green spaces such as the 17th-century public square Place des Vosges, where contemplation blossoms and tranquility reigns during a picnic lunch or over an engrossing book.

It thrives in the city’s history of famous couples – such as philosophers Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir, whose spirit dominates the cafes on the Left Bank; the doomed medieval lovers Abelard and Heloïse, whose former home overlooking the river on Quais des Fleurs is marked by a plaque; and actors Simone Signoret and Yves Montand, who lived and dined daily at the Place Dauphine, an intimate oasis at the Île de la Cité.

View of Place Dauphine in Paris
Place Dauphine

But romance, and indeed, Paris, isn’t just for lovers. The city richly rewards those who wish to slow down, look up and engage with the cityscape, enabling us to be both immersed in and detached from the urban hum. After all, the flâneur – a solitary, artful figure who strolls through parks, boulevards and cafes searching for nothing except la belle vie (the good life) – is a local institution.

When I wander, I treat Paris’ majestic cityscape and Second Empire embellishments that unfurl like lace along the river with the reverence they deserve: I leave my sneakers and sweatpants at home, and even wear a slick of red lipstick.

the pantheon paris dome

My inspired roam takes me next to the Panthéon, the resting place of France’s intellectual giants such as Voltaire and Victor Hugo, where massive murals by Pierre Puvis de Chavannes tell the story of Paris’ patron saint Genevieve, who helped avert an attack by Attila the Hun in AD451. From April to November, guests can climb an interior stairway leading to the building’s circular dome – and a spectacular view of Paris.

As I cross Pont de la Tournelle, a bridge spanning the Seine, the bells of the nearby Nôtre-Dame de Paris thunder and stir my bones. Had I been travelling with a companion and in conversation, I might never have heard them.

Museums and musings

Invigorated, I stop by Cafe St Regis on Île Saint-Louis, an island in the Seine. It is a gorgeous bistro, with white tiles and well-patinated wooden banquettes. Seated at a corner table, I tuck into a warm goat’s cheese salad and a crème brûlée, and open, half-heartedly, Earthly Paradise by French novelist Colette, who wrote passionately about her beloved Paris.

cafe st regis paris
Cafe St Regis

Later in the afternoon, I cross Place de la République and head to the Canal Saint-Martin district, arguably Paris’ trendiest neighbourhood today. But the energy is not electric; it’s bucolic.

canal saint martin in paris
Canal Saint-Martin

Sycamores line an urban waterway – its construction, ordered by Napoléon in 1802 to supply the city’s growing population, took 23 years and was paid for by a tax on wine – casting reflections on the glassy canal. I think of Amélie, the achingly romantic titular character of the eponymous, quintessentially Parisian film, kneeling on one of the bridges here in a red dress, skipping stones into the water.

From there, I make a beeline for Du Pain et Des Idées, baker Christophe Vasseur’s temple of patisserie excellence, and then to Centre Commercial, a tastefully curated concept store full of sunlight and chunky wool coats.

Centre Commercial Paris
Centre Commercial

Life in Paris, it seems, is lived in cafes; at times, it feels as if the city’s entire population is seated alfresco – flirting, discussing, having tête-à-têtes over strong coffee or table wine. So I park myself outdoors at the venerable Le Nemours by Palais-Royal for hot tea before a twilight stroll through the gardens. Colette lived in an apartment above the colonnades here, and I imagine waking to the vision of linden and chestnut trees, tidily lined up in Paris’ most elegant enclosure.

museum D'Orsay in Paris
Musée d’Orsay

It’s Thursday and the museums are open till late. This is not my first time in Paris, so, apart from lingering in the Cour Carrée, one of its main courtyards, and feeling the brisk air by the glass-and-metal Louvre Pyramid as night falls, I largely bypass the Louvre. At Musée d’Orsay, I’m the lone figure in many of the galleries, and I idle awhile at the gauzy dreamscape of Monet’s Haystacks, at Corot’s Young Woman In A Pink Dress and at Manet’s iconic Olympia – I had never before noticed the black cat in the last painting.

After checking out an exhibition of dazzling Fortuny gowns at Palais Galliera, I make my way to Les Grands Verres (below), a new restaurant at Palais de Tokyo with pristine, modern decor. Dinner is a delicious piece of trout, followed by a poached pear for dessert. As comfortable as I am by myself in the joyously packed room, I cannot imagine sitting alone in this restaurant if it were in New York or Los Angeles.

les grands verres paris
Le Dokhan’s

On a whim, I decide to brave a plunge into deep romance, and walk over to the sultry champagne bar at Le Dokhan’s. I’ve celebrated with my husband and children here before, but on this night, I raise my glass not to them but to Paris and how it nourishes and invigorates me.

The next day leads me on an extended walk through the Marais, where I lived when I first married. I miss my husband, but I’m utterly content. On my last evening in the most romantic city on earth, my legs carry me across pedestrian bridge Pont des Arts. Below it, the river that roils brown and thick like a pot of pea soup in the day is a glittering black canvas. On it float ribbons of gold and silver, the watery reflections of white and yellow street lights.

It’s hard to fathom the sublimity of the panorama before me that, for centuries, has been the repository of people’s dreams. The Eiffel Tower sparkles as it does every hour, illuminating the sky. The sight ignites something in me too. Paris has revived my belief in the absolute transformative power of beauty. A young couple walks by, whispering, heads close.

I recall my visit to Le Fumoir earlier, when the light outside the restaurant near the Louvre was like a pale blanket. I asked the hostess for a table for one. “I’m alone,” I said. “Madame,” she said, “you’re never alone in Paris.”



This article was originally published by Singapore Press Holdings.



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